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07 October 2010 @ 11:00 pm

Is anyone else really annoyed at Naomi. Seriously, Sam is your ex. You no longer have claim on him. It is not wrong or selfish for Addison to be with him. The reason she didn't tell you was because she knew how you would react. She knew you were going to overreact, and you did not prove her wrong.

I understand your reaction in one sense. You cannot help your emotions. You can, though, help how you deal with them. And lashing out at Addison or letting her know your feelings, especially the way you did, is just not okay. She did nothing wrong, so while you can't help being angry, you need to stop taking it out on her. Especially considering you aren't blaming Sam at all or getting angry at him. 

Gah, anyways, I just needed to express my annoyance, and I found this community while looking for somewhere to express it. We really need a community like the Grey's one where we discuss episodes and stuff.
Greasy Fingers: Cooper & Charlottefastandfunky on October 8th, 2010 04:28 am (UTC)
I half agree. I definitely think she needs to realize that Sam is his own person, and if he wants to be with someone he can. But I do think she has the right to tell Addison how she's feeling. And at least the way she did it wasn't because they were in a volatile fight. She was being coherent and Addison understood where she was coming from.

Remember last season when they weren't talking and got into such fights? That was so frustrating. At least now there's communication between the two.

I do absolutely agree about her not being upset with Sam. He is in the relationship too.
philstar22philstar22 on October 8th, 2010 04:31 am (UTC)
Okay, but there is a difference between saying "I'm upset with you and this situation and I wish you weren't with my ex" and saying "you are a selfish person and you did something wrong and knew it". The first is her expressing her emotion in a healthy way. The second is making it out as fact that Addison was wrong and simply isn't true.

That said, you are right, at least they are talking. Honestly, Naomi frustrates me a lot. She as a character tends to overreact to things in general.
Greasy Fingers: Violet Turnerfastandfunky on October 8th, 2010 04:46 am (UTC)
Well, sort of. Addison was a cheater, that is truth, and to play devil's advocate I can see an angle that would make Addison (And Sam) seem like a selfish person. They hid their relationship from Naomi for so long. They both knew she would be upset no matter when they told her, so keeping it from her was only to prevent them from having to deal with the inevitable blow up from Naomi. Sam and Addison got some time to have a quiet uninterrupted relationship, while Naomi was in an ignorant bliss. Also, Naomi was only more upset the later she found out.

Naomi can be a frustrating character.
philstar22: Grey's: Callie/Markphilstar22 on October 8th, 2010 04:55 am (UTC)
Addison cheated once, yes. But she knew she was wrong and made ammends. I don't think doing something once makes her a lifetime cheater who can't escape the label. And her being with Sam is not cheating, no matter how much Naomi would like to paint it that way.

Yes, they should have told her, but I think it was more about knowing that Naomi was going to overract than because they thought they were doing something wrong. I'm not so sure Naomi would have been any less upset if they had told her earlier.
lilacmermaidlilacmermaid on October 8th, 2010 04:45 am (UTC)
I'm a little annoyed with her too. I can see why she'd be upset, and I'm glad that Addison worried both about doing this at all, and about telling her.

What I'm not okay with is saying last week that she's fine with it, and then just lashing out at her this week when Addison thought they were fine. The Addison/Naomi friendship is by far my favourite thing about this show, but they haven't actually been friends for most of these 3+ seasons, and I'm sick of it.

On a side note: did anyone else think there was some pretty bad writing tonight, especially in the last scene with Pete and his friend? I don't know what it was, but it just seemed very mechanical to me. I love the characters on this show, and I even love a lot of their storylines, but I definitely think Grey's has better writing at the level of dialogue.
Greasy Fingers: Violet Turnerfastandfunky on October 8th, 2010 04:49 am (UTC)
Yo me it feels like the shows have been flipping. Last year I liked Private Practice worlds more than Grey's, and I'm liking Grey's a lot more this year, so far.
philstar22: Grey's: Callie/Markphilstar22 on October 8th, 2010 04:52 am (UTC)
I totally agree. About the only thing I like so far this season is Addison/Sam. I like the relationship, and I think she deserves a chance to be happy. The writing has been kind of sub par, though. Last year on Gray's was the same way, but I'm totally loving this season (especially Owen/Christina and Christina's PTSD).

Wierdly enough, I actually started watching PP first. I got into Grey's in season 5 through the crossover episodes.
lilacmermaidlilacmermaid on October 8th, 2010 05:16 am (UTC)
I was thinking the exact same thing today! I especially loved the episodes around when she and Sam first became close, and when her parents showed up. She had to do some amazing acting those weeks.

That being said, even when PP is at its best, it still falls a little short for me, because Addison never truly gets to be happy. Even when something's working out really well for her, there's always something else hanging over her head. And I want them to revisit the baby issue with her.
irinafanirinafan on October 8th, 2010 08:34 pm (UTC)
Um, I don't know, but there's an unwritten law between female friends that exes of any kind are always off limits. I'd never touch one of my friend's exes ever and would get seriously upset if any of them slept with one of my ex-boyfriends. I think Naomi has every right to be terribly mad at Addison, and I am saying that as a Sam/Addison shipper.
philstar22philstar22 on October 8th, 2010 08:48 pm (UTC)
Well, I always thought that rule was really stupid personally. Men are not property, and once they are an ex, you no longer have any claim over them. I would probably feel some annoyance if a friend was dating an ex, but I would realize that it was just my personal feelings and not a gage of the actual situation and that she really hadn't done anything wrong. Especially considering that Naomi and Addison are no longer in high school and are adults.